Monday, October 27, 2014

A Plethora of Good Feelings and Growth Unfold at Our Oct. 15, 2014 Meeting

The mission of a Toastmasters club is to provide a mutually supportive and positive learning environment in which every individual member has the opportunity to develop oral communication and leadership skills, which in turn foster self-confidence and personal growth.

Robin, president of Peace Speakers, opens our meeting with the announcement of the Toastmasters International celebration of 90 years.  She has cupcakes in hand, which she generously shares.  The fact that Toastmasters has this kind of staying power and is known worldwide says a lot about its effectiveness and appeal: over 14,000 clubs in 126 countries!

Robin reminds us that our next meeting is on the Presbyterian Center's Staff Development Day with time and room changes:  Wed., Nov. 5 at 12:40 in room CR 5000.  Members are encouraged to attend and take on a role.  This will be a great recruitment opportunity for Peace Speakers!

Robin acknowledges that 6 Peace Speakers participated in the chapel worship service on October 8.  Those 6 members were Ada, Catherine, Kay, Kerri, Lynn, and Robin.  And thanks to Perry, we had a Guatemalan vocalist and pianist who added complementary music to the worship service we planned.



Megan, our invocation leader for the day, recites a poem she has selected:

"THE PEACE OF WILD THINGS"
by Wendell Berry

 

When despair grows in me
and I wake in the middle of the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought of grief.
 I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light.
For a time I rest in the grace of the world,
and am free.




JOKE MASTER STIRS UP 
SOME FUN

I asked my North Korean friend how it was there.  He said he couldn't complain. 

 Together, I can beat dissociative identity. 

There's no "I" in denial.

"I'm sorry" and "I apologize" mean the same thing, except when you're at a funeral. 
~Demetri Martin





TOASTMASTER SHARES
AN EXPLANATION

Eric points to the image of rye on the agenda and asks if anyone knows its relationship to Halloween.  He shares that rye is prone to the ergot fungus. Unknowingly ingesting infected rye, one might suffer from ergotism or St. Anthony's Fire, making one's limbs feel like they're on fire. (LSD, a powerful hallucinogen, is derived from ergot.)  I googled this and found that in France in the 1950s, people ate bread made from fungus-infected rye.  These victims gave accounts of being chased or attacked by horrible beasts in the terror of darkness.  They reported feeling that their bodies were not their own.  This terrifying event likely lead to the development of the werewolf legend.  

As Toastmaster, Eric introduces Kristi, one of our newest members.  She's a transcriber with the Louisville Metro Police Department.  This is her second Toastmasters club, and she's giving her Ice Breaker speech today called "As you Slide Down the Banister of Life, Don't Get a Splinter in Your Career".   This is her first speech to deliver to our club, and it's a chance to get to know Kristi better.

 
Good afternoon.  I'm delighted to have this opportunity to present my Ice Breaker speech. 

I grew up in Wichita, Kansas.  I was born two months premature and became blind as a result of being given too much oxygen in the incubator.  I'm the oldest and have two brothers. 

My parents elected to send me to the Kansas School for the Blind in Kansas city, where they felt I would receive a better education, about 200 miles away, where some of us, at the age of five, often traveled each way by bus.  Sometimes we could only go home once a month.

Some of my friends in nursery school attended KSB with me, and I still keep in touch with three of them today.  I think we should have the Guinness Book of World Records for the longest enduring friendships outside of marriage!

Mom was a home-maker and later worked in Daddy's grocery store.  They had a strong work ethic that was passed along to me.  I learned Braille as a child, as other children learned print, and I enjoy reading, and use it every day on my job. 
 
Growing up we often went to the lake on weekends--where I swam, enjoyed motor boating, and attempting to water ski.  At school I excelled in piano, chorus, German, reading, and I liked gymnastics, especially the parallel bars and the balance beam. 

Our student body was very small, so it wasn't uncommon for students to meet in grade school and graduate together.  One of our annual activities was our participation in a sports car rally sponsored by the KU Jay Hawks sports car rally club. They supplied the drivers, and we had Braille and large print directions to navigate a route with check points, where trophies were awarded.  I won a trophy every other year of the years I participated. 

Another benefit was that we could attend the prom starting in seventh grade. When I was a junior, our superintendent, Dr. Ohlsen, told us that we should have the appearance and conduct such that we would not be ashamed if our parents came to the prom.  Somehow I thought that he asked us to ask our parents.  I had four dates that year.  You see, we had a banquet, a prom, and then a cruise on a pleasure showboat for several hours before we later went to breakfast as the finale. 

I thought Phil was a very polite and becoming sports car rally driver, so I asked him if he would be my escort.  Although I wondered what had happened when I didn't see him, I was touched when, right in the middle of our banquet someone delivered lovely white orchids and a card from Phil, apologizing that he couldn't be there, but hoping those would suffice.  I was the only one that got flowers from  an  outside, would-be date. 

At the beginning of our prom in our beautifully decorated recreation center, my mother was the only parent who came.  She thought so much of two of Daddy's employees--Dan, who worked in the meat department, and Don, a delivery boy, that she brought them too.  So they were my second and third dates. 

They left at midnight since they had to drive the 200 miles back to Wichita, but Bill had agreed to escort me to the boat festivities, so he was my date for the rest of the time.  During our alumni reunion last summer, held annually, I saw Bill after 43 years, and we reminisced about that experience.
 

Kristi and her Seeing Eye dog, Hailey
My parents and school taught me that being blind means we may do things differently, but that many things can be accomplished by using alternative techniques, and by being willing to take risks and to try new things.  This belief has been steadfast in my life.  In 2005 I became the first blind person who served on the grand jury for the Commonwealth of Kentucky. 

Some of my hobbies include learning, baking, identifying birdsongs, making friends, public speaking, creative writing, and I have worked in a variety of jobs.  I'm married, have three grown children, six grandchildren, a ferret, and my Seeing Eye dog, Hailey, who gets to critique all my speeches. 

I am a colon cancer survivor since 2001, (thank God) and am a member of Gilda's Club, where I participated in the St. Patrick's Day parade and walked as one of their representatives last March.  So did Hailey, where she was constantly distracted by other dogs. 

Some of my values are love, enduring friendships, family, a sense of humor, punctuality, and self-development. 

A few of the things I strongly dislike are ingenuousness, tactlessness, people who label and assume and are unwilling to learn, and consistent misuse and mispronunciation of words--like recognize, pitcher for picture, and irregardless, or in regards to, instead of in regard.  Good grammar is always appreciated. 

In conclusion, one of my goals is to become financially independent, to give much away, and to travel to Europe with my husband.


Thank you, Kristi, for sharing so much about your interesting life!  You're living proof that a full and dynamic life is a choice, even when you have to learn how to do things differently.


TABLE TOPICS EVOKE A PLETHORA OF RESPONSES

I forgot to mention that the Word of the Day for our meeting is plethora.  This word is chosen by the member who's taken on the role of the Ah-counter/Grammarian.  The use of the Word of the Day is encouraged throughout our Toastmasters meeting.  Plethora is a noun that means a very large amount or number.  A plethora of good feelings and growth takes place during Peace Speakers meetings.  And one way this is experienced is during Table Topics, where individuals get a chance to express themselves extemporaneously.  You don't get to plan ahead, you read a prompt, and you jump in with your 1-2 minute response.  It's fun, it's informative, and it helps speakers grow their skills.



 

Eva, our Table Topics Master, has a bag of goodies.  There are chocolates for anyone volunteering to participate by drawing a prompt.  Eva shares that her questions all relate to Halloween in some fashion or another.  






What’s the best Halloween costume you’ve ever worn or seen someone else wear?

Megan admits that her mom refused to purchase store-bought costumes for her.  It was a money thing.  So most of her costumes were sweatshirts that were decorated in a variety of ways,  such as a puppy from 101 Dalmatians.  She remembers wearing a little felt hat and yarn for hair.  Probably her best costume in her Halloween career was Pippi Longstocking, where she was given freckles with wire attached to her braided hair to make it stick out like Pippi's hairdo.





Tell us about a time when you were really scared.

Robin shares a time when her son crawled out of his crib and fell down the stairs.  She heard him go thump, thump, thump as he tumbled down.  When she got to him, he wasn't responding well and he couldn't answer her questions.  She called the doctor and described the goosehead lump on his head.  They did an MRI and determined that he did have a concussion.  She told her husband that maybe he shouldn't be a football player when he grows up since he's already had his first concussion at age 2.



Have you ever been in a haunted house? Do you believe houses or other places can be haunted?

Kristi shares that she likes reading about haunted places and is a huge Steven King fan.  She also recalls the movie Poltergeist where ghosts haunted a family's home.  When Kristi lived in Wichita, she went to several haunted houses.  Admittedly, her kids like them.  But she prefers to read about her haunted houses rather than visiting them.  Most are overrated, she thinks.




Do you decorate your house or yard for Halloween? Why or why not?

Lynn admits that she has twin boys the age of 9, so she does a tiny bit of decorating for Halloween.  She notes that it takes a lot of work and it's expensive.  People in her neighborhood decorate extensively, but she would rather use her effort to go out with her boys to look at other people's Halloween decorations, such as creatures being electrocuted and other scary set-ups.  In the end, it's not a priority to decorate much.  She would rather spend that time with her kids.


AND THE WINNER OF TABLE TOPICS IS...  

MEGAN secures the greatest number of votes for a compelling response to her prompt, so she has bragging rights and takes the trophy home until we meet again on November 5th at 12:40.


SPEECH EVALUATOR SHARES HIS OPINION

ERIC shares that for Kristi's Ice Breaker speech, he noticed how comfortable she was speaking and that she used great grammar.  He noted her clear and easy way of delivery and her ability to effectively share anecdotes.  This showed just how genuine, kind, caring, and thoughtful she is.  He thought she elaborated well, especially about her prom.  He said the body and conclusion of her speech were clear.  Next time, he suggested adding a few signposts in the beginning of her speech to let everyone know what's coming.

ERIC draws the educational part of our meeting to a close, noting that it feels like a long time since he's been up at the podium since he was out for a while with a new baby.  However, he's really made up for lost time in Peace Speakers today.  He took on Toastmaster and at the last minute picked up the Joke Master and Speech Evaluator roles as well.  He concluded his time at the podium encouraging all of us sign up for roles for our next meeting.

If you're a visitor to this blog and are considering Toastmasters, this worldwide educational program has been successful for nine decades now.  The founder's vision continues to thrive today by helping members overcome obstacles, live confidently, meet goals, and change lives for the better.  Give our club a try, and you'll find a warm and welcoming group of people!

We are an open Toastmasters club, 
so please pay us a visit!

OUR NEXT FEW 2014 MEETINGS:

 Nov. 5 - Conference Room 5000
TIME CHANGE 12:40

 Nov. 19 - Conference Room B
REGULAR TIME 1:00

Peace Speakers Toastmasters Club
1st and 3rd Wednesdays (usually)
1:00 - 2:00 p.m.
100 Witherspoon Street
Downtown Louisville, KY

Respectfully submitted,
Kay Chambers
Blogger for Peace Speakers
To access our previous blogs, here are the links
(We kept running out of space and needed to start new ones!) 





Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Peace Speakers Gather on September 17 for Enjoyment and Growth

The mission of a Toastmasters club is to provide a mutually supportive and positive learning environment in which every individual member has the opportunity to develop oral communication and leadership skills, which in turn foster self-confidence and personal growth.




Ada, Presiding Officer, beams as she greets members and four guests who are visiting Peace Speakers today.  She speaks for all of us when she says, "Our hearts are happy to see so many visitors."  Our guests each share a little about themselves: Holly is a California native and is experiencing her very first Toastmasters meeting.  Minh is looking for a club that best fits with her schedule.  Ben travels a lot and enjoys visiting other Toastmasters groups. And Lynn has visited us previously and is considering joining sometime in the future.  Welcome, welcome, welcome!!!!



Robin, President of Peace Speakers, reminds us that our first quarterly drawing will begin at our next meeting, October 1st.  Anyone who's served as Toastmaster or given a speech during this quarter stands a chance at winning a gift.  Sweet incentive, if you ask me!!!

Robin's baby is due November 9, so her last meeting for a while may be November 5th on Staff Development Day, when we meet at 12:40 (instead of the usual 1:00).  Ada will preside after the baby's birth until Robin can return to resume her presidential duties.


INVOCATION MAKES A U-TURN

Think about it:  How do you deal with change?  I don’t particularly see myself as a Change Master.  I often grieve a change that I have no control over until motivation for a shift presents itself.  Such is this lamentation I share about the change of season upon us:

Goodbye summer, I hate to see you go!

Goodbye to sun-drenched days, bare skin, and bands playing at Waterfront Wednesdays.

Goodbye to longer days, warm breezes, top-down driving, and sweaty armpits.

Goodbye to running wildly through the twirling sprinkler and playing joyfully in the rain.

Goodbye to Hurricane Bay’s thrilling 12-story drop down a deep water dive. 

Goodbye to whizzing frantically through space on Kentucky Kingdom’s roller coasters and free-falling in gleeful terror on the Fear Factor ride.

Goodbye to the smell of fresh cut grass, the sight of summer daisies and cheery clumps of Black-eyed Susans.

Goodbye to the relentless sound of chirping cicadas and to treasures found at Saturday morning yards sales.

Goodbye to roadside fruit stands, the sound of ice cream trucks, and water balloon fights.

Goodbye to friendly folks at farmers markets, farm fresh eggs, and local honey.

Goodbye to gathering at restaurant patios, grilling outdoors, and the smell of smoky BBQ.

Goodbye to our garden’s fresh corn, juicy tomatoes and the abundance of fresh kale and okra.

Goodbye to flowy, strappy, bright-colored sundresses and wearing flip-flops in a flip-flop kind of world.

Goodbye to the sounds of squealing children in squirt gun fights and eating ice cream to cool off in the afternoon.

Goodbye summer vacations, a flotilla of flotation devices, outdoor parties and chilled sangria.

Goodbye to bare feet, chasing lightening bugs at dusk, and watching fireworks in the black of night.

Goodbye to outdoor pools, impromptu summer picnics, and mosquitoes.

Hmmmm, good riddance, you wretched little mosquitoes!  Farewell summer! Adieu! Time to move quickly into fall!


The good news is that Toastmasters remains a constant in our lives despite the season.  There are no losses, and the changes we experience as Peace Speakers are always positive!

~ Kay Chambers, Blogger



JOKE MASTER SHARES HUMOROUS CARTOON  
FROM THE NEW YORKER MAGAZINE


A cartoon by Roz Chast called "Creation: The True Story" retells the Genesis creation story with jokes about procrastination:

On the first day, God created nothing, because there was plenty of time. 

Second day, same deal.  God is thinking, “Why rush?”

On the 4th day, He was not in the right mood.  (God lets out a sigh.)

On the 5th day, all this stuff was going on.  You don’t want to know.  (God’s looking very frazzled and overwhelmed.)

On the 6th day, God created the whole shebang.  (Stars, mountains, critters, humans, and nature are all represented in this frame.)

On the 7th day, He rested.  (God’s sitting on a couch looking totally worn out.)

To enjoy this cartoon visually as well, go to this link:  Roz Chast's Creation Cartoon

 TOASTMASTER USHERS IN AUTUMN THOUGHTS


Kerri, our Toastmaster for the day, makes reference to the colorful image of a brightly colored fall tree atop the agenda she prepared.  She reminds us that the weather at this time of the year is lovely and suggests we take advantage of the many opportunities we have to get outdoors.  She challenges us to spend more time outside walking, having lunch, or using any other excuse we can find.  (By the way, this is Kerri's first time as Toastmaster, and she's totally a natural!)





Kerri introduces the people who have volunteered to take on a role during our meeting today.  This gives members of Peace Speakers an opportunity to speak and develop their leadership skills. Eric is serving as the "Ah-Counter and Grammarian" today.  The Word of the Day he's chosen is doppelganger, which means "someone who looks like someone else".  Eric is a new dad, and after his parents brought out a baby picture of Eric, he realized that his newborn is a doppelganger for him.  (By the way, can you tell he's a new father?  He says he's feeling a bit tired these days!) 

Speaking of new parents, Bethany also just recently had a baby girl.  My goodness, these Peace Speakers are a prolific and dynamic group!  And this is a perfect way to segue to our speaker today.



PREPARED SPEAKER GETS REAL ABOUT MOTHERHOOD
Robin gives her 4th speech today, which focuses on “How to Say It” from the Competent Communication Manual. The title of her speech is “Motherhood Defined,” and we’re about to hear from an expert…one who’s been in the trenches. (Using bullet notes from her talk, the following is the gist of what Robin imparted during her speech.)


 















Motherhood is defined as the state or experience of having and raising a child.”  I feel the definition is missing something.  Like all the ups and downs that go into having and raising a child???


I’m a mom of two… okay, two and three quarters…


My daughter just celebrated her fourth birthday, and my son will be two this month.  Baby number three is due in November.  Everyday I roll out of bed to the unknown:

·       Will everyone be in a good mood?

·       How tangled will Maggie’s hair be?

·       Is John going to be mad that we ran out of bananas?

·       Will the dog come inside the first time I call for him?

Today I’m here to share three things that I’ve learned about being a mother:



1.  As a mother you must roll with the punches.



Once you’re a parent, you’re no longer in control…of...anything. For example, in June the children attended summer camp. Wednesday was costume day and John was the Incredible Hulk. Maggie had swimming first thing, so I took her outside to spray sunscreen on her legs. Suddenly, the door shut! My son had locked us out of the house! I had NO KEYS, NO PHONE, and was wearing NO SHOES. I was literally barefoot and pregnant, walking down the street carrying the Incredible Hulk in one arm, holding the hand of a three-year-old in a swim suit, and knocking on the doors of our neighbors’ houses.



Luckily, the retired neighbors down half way down the street were home. They let me use their phone while we waited in their house.  My mom came over with a key and the kids made it to school. Of course, I made it to work, but I was about three hours late that day.



2. As a mother you must expect the unexpected.



Be prepared to be amazed by the words that come out of your child’s mouth.  In July, I was loading kids in the van before summer camp.  Our dog was outside and wouldn’t come when I called for him. Grabbing him, I noticed a baby bird and tried to determine how I would maneuver the van around it without killing it. When Maggie saw the bird, she exclaimed, “MOMMY, WE NEED A SNORT!”



Now, for those of you who are not familiar with a SNORT, it’s the steam shovel that puts the baby bird back in its nest in the children’s book, “Are You My Mother?” I had to stop and explain to Maggie that we didn’t have a SNORT, although it would come in handy. Somehow I backed out of the driveway without hitting the baby bird. It wasn’t there later in the day, so we assumed it found its mother.



3. And lastly, as a mother you must get your hands dirty.



We all know that kids are kind of gross. They aren’t potty trained. They have snotty faces, and food sticks to their bodies.  But this particular story is about my dog, Champ. Champ has the habit of getting in trouble when he’s desperate for attention.  And with two younger, human siblings in the house, he often feels left out.



On Friday, I let Champ outside, and when he came back in he smelled awful!  He was guilty! He had rolled in poop!  I took Champ to our shower upstairs, washed him, and warned him not to do it again. For some reason, Champ didn’t listen. He did it again on Monday morning! Again, he was soaked in the shower.  And if he does it again, my next speech will be titled, “Dog in Need of Good Home.”



In closing, I think if I were to rewrite the definition to Motherhood, I would find a way to include the lessons that I’ve learned as a mom:

·       Rolling with the punches

·       Expecting the unexpected

·       Getting your hands dirty



But—as not to scare away any new or expecting parents—I think I would redefine Motherhood simply as this:


“The state or experience of having and raising a child.  It is the hardest, most rewarding job a person could EVER do!”


          
TABLE TOPICS HIT A MUSICAL HIGH 

Megan, our Table Topics Master for the day, created questions that involve music to get people talking.  Each prompt shared a quote and was followed by a question.  Those choosing to participate were given one to two minutes to respond.  I always love Table Topics, as they are often a window into speakers' lives and so richly tell us more about them.  Today was no exception.  All of the answers were so well-spoken and interesting that I couldn't get it written down fast enough.  Please forgive the brevity.  Your answers were so much more complete and enjoyable at our meeting!



Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything.    ~ Plato


What role has music played in your own life? What do you imagine the world would be like without music? 

Connie shares that she grew up in a family that valued music.  They embraced it.  She admits, however, that she doesn't play an instrument because she was kicked out of orchestra. (I bet that's an interesting story, Connie!) Despite that, she does have good ears.  It's a gift she possesses that helps her appreciate a world of music.  For example, when she's sad, she chooses to listen to opera.  She also likes hip-hop music because it's exciting.  Music has played a big part in her family and will continue to do so. 



Without music, life would be a mistake.      ~Friedrich Nietzsche

What are a few of your favorite bands or musicians? How has their music touched your life?  

Ben shares that indeed, life would be a mistake without music.  His dad's keen appreciation for music greatly influenced him.  Dad installed in him a love for eclectic music styles.  As a child, he remembers listening to Paul Simon's Graceland, which exposed him to world music.  He remembers putting up his arms and feeling joyful dancing to it. His family's appreciation for music is why it's such a big part of his life today.  His parent's passion and joy for music brought people together.  After all, music is one language we all can speak.


Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent.   ~  Victor Hugo


Has music ever provided an outlet for expressing or understanding something you weren’t able to put into words – either by listening or by playing it?

Lynn admits that she can think of many instances when music has provided an outlet.  She notes that she feels more intensely when listening to different kinds of music.  The music often compliments her feelings.  When feeling sad, she might listen to bluesy music and minor chords.  The buzz stays with her for a long time.  Music is very powerful, whether one's listening to it or playing it.




People worry about kids playing with guns, and teenagers watching violent videos; we are scared that some sort of culture of violence will take them over. Nobody worries about kids listening to thousands - literally thousands - of songs about broken hearts and rejection and pain and misery and loss.    ~Nick Hornby, "High Fidelity"

What kind of music did you listen to when you were growing up? What does this music mean to you now?  

Holly shares that she is a Baby Boomer and grew up in the 1950's - 80's.  She admired and was influenced by singer song writers.  She found their melodious tunes to be more touching to the heart than the current tunes.  She particularly loved music that incorporated nature, the wind, waves and a cacophony of sounds that were all quite beautiful.  This type of music continues to be a meaningful part of her life.


 SPECIAL RECOGNITION GOES TO...

At this time, members and guests vote for the short speech they favored the most.  Holly comes out on top and will leave today with the satisfaction of knowing that she moved people with what she shared.  (She said more than what I typed...but I couldn't keep up with her!)




EVALUATOR FOR ROBIN'S SPEECH SHARES HER OPINION

Kristy smiles broadly recalling Robin's speech on motherhood.  She shares that she found it to be a very interesting and amusing speech.  "It made us smile," she remarks.  She adds that Robin clearly communicated her ideas and had a good sense of timing.  She really loved the stories she shared about her children and the dog stories as well.  She felt that Robin gave great examples and summarized well at the closing. 




In case you were wondering about those bags, Betsy, our Vice President of Membership, distributed gift bags to our first time visitors.  We are always grateful for guests and especially love it when they feel comfortable enough to join us in Table Topics like Holly and Ben did today. 



Ada closes by sharing what a fabulous meeting it's been.  She's appreciative of so many aspects: all of the work that went into preparing for the meeting, the roles people played, the speech Robin gave, and the information that was shared during Table Topics.  

This type of enjoyment and satisfaction is standard at our Peace Speakers meetings.  If you're a visitor to this blog, don't stay a stranger!  Come to one of our meetings and experience the warmth and the numerous opportunities for developing your communication and leadership skills in a friendly and supportive environment.  



We are an open Toastmasters club, 
so please pay us a visit!

OUR NEXT FEW 2014 MEETINGS:

 Oct. 1 - Conference Room B

 Oct. 15 - Conference Room B

Peace Speakers Toastmasters Club
1st and 3rd Wednesdays (usually)
1:00 - 2:00 p.m.
100 Witherspoon Street
Downtown Louisville, KY

Respectfully submitted,
Kay Chambers
Blogger for Peace Speakers
To access our previous blogs, here are the links
(We kept running out of space and needed to start new ones!)